I'm hoping its because of the big changes this week with my return to work and dealing with daycare stress (it did not go as swimmingly well for E on Thursday - big meltdown and lots of tears when I picked him up - I don't want to talk about it) but we had the day together and I just feel overwhelmed. I'm exhausted - mentally at work (and having lots of headaches) and physically when I come home - partially due to sleep deprivation and partially due to running after this precocious toddler who is into EVERYTHING right now in the blink of an eye. I feel overwhelmed and exhausted. Am I the only one feeling this way at this stage? With Troy and I planning to try to get pregnant in 6 months, I'm incredibly happy and excited but very apprehensive because how on earth am I going to run after E when I'm exhausted due to pregnancy? What if I have to go on bedrest again? I do most of the stuff around here - that has to change but I"m too exhausted to start that "discussion" and implement change. For right now, anyway. And when I have a newborn and a 2 year old to run around after - how do people do it? I'm seriously freaking out and if these present feelings of being overwhelmed and exhausted don't subside soon I'm feeling at risk of falling into a depression. And I really, really don't want that. I'm happy. Just wiped out. Advice from the trenches GREATLY appreciated and desperately solicited. Thank you. Drive through.
posted by Sherocious at 8:08 p.m.
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One saving strategy might be to get a second car seat so either of you can pick-up or deliver E to playschool, either of you could take him on errands or to the park, either of you could leave the other free to clean up at home while E is out playing or visiting. Then one of you is not the only one with a deadline, a list of chores, the ability to do all things rather than a few at a time. Just a suggestion I heard from Nan.
I thought the above advice was amazing. Good idea!
Also, you get through it. You're exhausted for about 4 years, but you get through it. And its a wonderful exhaustion.
Good luck having the 'discussion' about the division of duties. Our kids are 8, 9, and 11 and we still 're-orientate' once in a while.
I'll be watching to see what good advice you get, as I'm wondering the same things. Teagan wears me out on her own, what will another do to me!?
I'm counting down my last week as a stay-at-home mommy over here......and thinking of you as I do!
The 2nd car seat would be a solution but Troy's car is a pickup truck with no back seat. One is not supposed to let a child sit in the front seat in a carseat (or without, for that matter).
Since writing yesterday's post things are a bit better - ironically I think Troy sensed my desperation and asked me to ask him to pitch in more - especially now that I'm back at work. I wont argue the issue (SAHM is work, thankyouverymuch) but he's been very helpful around here the last couple of days, and even let me have a bit extra sleep this morning and yesterday morning (although I had been up with E from 5:00 am until 8:00 when I woke Troy up to hand him over). It will be okay and T's heart is certainly in the right place. I just have to learn to ask for help instead of silently suffering and waiting for him to read my mind.
Wendy - good luck on the return to work! Its not too bad - if anything its almost like a little break (though I miss E terribly when I'm away from him) its nice to have a bit more control over your time. Let me know how it goes! :)
You definitely HAVE to ask for Troy's help! They want to help, really, they do - but they aren't women, LOL.. so they can't just "see" that you need help. It took me years (and in fact, I'm still working on it) to learn this, and to learn to say "I need you to help me get the boys to bed" rather than suffering and sighing loudly as he tapped away at his laptop.
And like a previous poster said, it's so exhausting, but you'll get through it. You just DO. Sometimes on no sleep, but amazingly, you do it. I never thought I would be able to care for sick children while I myself am sick, but I did it - I had no choice, LOL. It's no fun to be shivering with fever while holding a pail under your child's chin.
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